Is 60 days of no contact enough?

For many people, yes: the emotional spikes have become occasional and short. For long relationships or painful endings, ninety is more realistic. Use the signals, not the date, to decide.

What if I still think about my ex every day after two months?

Thinking about them is not the problem; being knocked down by it is. If the thoughts still cost you days rather than minutes, extend to ninety and consider a therapist. Some relationships leave more to process than a counter can measure.

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Day 60 of No Contact: Two Months In and How to Know If It's Working

Two months. Your opinions are yours again.

Day 167% of the way to day 90Day 90

How to know it is working

Urges are shorter. Twenty minutes, not an evening.
The first thing you think about in the morning is not them.
Whole afternoons pass. Sometimes a whole day.
You can name what was wrong, not just what you miss.
Their birthday, a song, a dream still land, but you are up by lunch.

Ambush versus setback

An ambush is a song in a store that puts you on the floor for an hour. A setback is three days of wanting to text. At sixty days you should be having ambushes, not setbacks. If you are still having setbacks, that is not failure; it is information about the relationship. Long relationships, living together, and endings that involved betrayal or manipulation take longer, and that is the whole reason the ninety-day range exists.

The trap on day 60

The closure conversation. At two months you feel steady enough to 'talk like adults.' Ask what you want from the conversation. If any part of the answer is 'to hear that they miss me' or 'to make them understand,' it is not closure, it is a dose with better branding. Closure is something you build alone, and you are most of the way there.

What to do today

1Run the signals checklist above. Write down which ones are true.
2If setbacks are still multi-day, consider talking to a therapist. Two months of no relief is worth a professional look, and it is not weakness.
3Do one thing your ex would not have liked you doing. Not out of spite. Out of ownership.
4Decide whether ninety is your target. Most people who make it to sixty finish.

Check your count

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Day 60 questions

Is 60 days of no contact enough?: For many people, yes: the emotional spikes have become occasional and short. For long relationships or painful endings, ninety is more realistic. Use the signals, not the date, to decide.
What if I still think about my ex every day after two months?: Thinking about them is not the problem; being knocked down by it is. If the thoughts still cost you days rather than minutes, extend to ninety and consider a therapist. Some relationships leave more to process than a counter can measure.

A note on safety. Heartbreak can bring up feelings that are bigger than any article. If you are thinking about harming yourself, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, US) or reach your local emergency number. This content is educational and is not a substitute for therapy.